Sex Education 101: Day #1. (Continued)

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Sex Education 101: Day #1. (Continued)

Positions To Give Head (Great Head) There are a lot more blow job positions that you just kneeling over him on the bed. Spice things up by trying new positions. Giving head shouldn’t be predictable. 
#1. Laying Giving Head There are a lot more blow job positions than you just kneeling over him on the bed. Spice things up by trying new positions. Giving head shouldn’t be predictable.

#2. The ½ Lay Giving Head
This usually involves the edge of the bed or on a couch. He will lay on his back with his legs in a sitting position. Basically his legs are hanging off of the edge of the bed or the couch, he back is laying flat against the bed or the couch and you are kneeling in front of him.
I personally like this blowjob position. It puts his penis in a great position and basically just points it right at you. You are able to grab his penis and get some great speed from a really good position for you, but it can make it hard to lick or play with his balls this way

#3. Sitting Giving Head
If you have ever given head in a car, then you have pretty much mastered this position. It can be a little hard to get to his penis from a completely sitting position and it can be even harder to get great access to give a great blow job, a slightly reclined version of sitting works a lot better, but, once again, you can play with and lick the balls that easily.

#4. Standing Giving Head
This one is great. A lot of guys find this position to be a huge turn on. He stands while you kneel in from of him and give him great head. Not only does he have a great view, you can easily play with his balls and really get good coverage on giving him head.
There is a little problem with this one. If he is standing up it can be hard to really get up to high speed because the bed (or chair or couch or whatever) isn’t keeping him still. He will sway and it can cause your resistance that you need to not be as strong as it could be. A great remedy for this is to make him stand up against a wall – it will keep him stable so you can go as fast as you want without any unwanted movement.

#5. 69 Giving Head
Great position. This blow job position allows you to give him a blow job while he goes down on (or just plays) with you. I personally like laying side-by-side while doing this position. There is no pressure on anyone and can enjoy getting and giving head at the same time. You can also lay him on the bed and get on top aligning your genitals to his mouth (and vice versa).
Of course, this one can be a little difficult to keep your concentration (for obvious reasons) but it is still a lot of fun to try.

#6. You Lying, Him Standing Giving Head
This one works the best if you lay your head off the back side of the bed and walks up to you. This gives you great access to his balls and it can really be a turn on because you have to be pretty submissive in this position.
Of course, it can start getting a little painful to your neck after a while and you might feel a little dizzy if you stay upside down for too long, but it’s a great way to get things start or to really get close to his balls and play and lick them.

Also Keep In Mind-

Tip #1: The More You Enjoy Giving Head, the Better Oral Sex Is For Everyone 
You really have to enjoy giving head. It makes the oral sex better for him and it gets you turned on. Think about it this way… having a conversation with someone who isn’t into it isn’t near as much fun as having a conversation with someone who is having a great time. Everything works the same way… especially in the bedroom. When you are enjoying giving him head it just makes sex all that much better.
So get into it, moan, find your rhythm. Whatever it takes to enjoy giving head almost as much as he enjoys getting it.
Tip #2: Use Your Hands When Giving Head It’s not just about your mouth; it’s not just about sucking. You are trying to re-create the feeling of having sex with your mouth… so keep that in mind when you are going down on him. Ideally you want to massage the shaft of his penis with your hand or hands while using your mouth to suck, lick, tongue the tip.
And you can always use the Magic Trinity approach: One hand on the shaft of his penis, one hand massaging his balls and your mouth on the tip. This is sure to send him over the edge.
Tip #3: Ask! Don’t be afraid to talk about giving head! Don’t hesitate to ask, “Does this feel good?”, “what do you like?”, “do you like it harder or softer?”. He will appreciate your willingness for feedback, you find out what he wants, and you will learn more in a few minutes than you ever will just reading articles on giving head or watching instructional blow job videos online. Don’t be shy… ask before, ask during, ask after – just ask!
Tip #4: When Giving Head - The Wetter the Better
A great blow job consists of 4 things: eagerness, technique, heat and moisture. You have got to keep things well lubed down there. If you don’t it can get a little painful and ruin everything. You might even want to try flavored lube if you don’t think your saliva itself will do the trick. Just remember – when it starts getting dry on his penis (especially when you are using your hands) it starts feeling awkward to him.
Take these tips on giving great head and put them to use… You’ll be a fellatio goddess in no time. And don’t be surprised when he wants to return the oral sex favor 10 fold.

Eating Out or Eating Pussy/Ass: A slang term for performing cunnilingus or anilingus.

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#1.The Initial Lick

As a start, try licking her from vaginal entrance up her clit and following the outer edges of her vagina covering both sides, going up and down and vice versa can be a great way to start your love making and will relax her and get her in the mood.

#2.Holding The Labial

Hold the two parts together gently with your lips, run your tongue between the inner and outer labia one side at a time
and repeat.

#3.Tongue Intercourse

The majority of a woman’s nerve endings in her vagina are around the opening and within the first couple of inches inside.

Hit them with your tongue when performing Cunnilingus by inserting it into the vaginal opening, then licking gently in circular motions combined with flicks of the tongue.

#4.Flicking

Spread her outer vaginal lips with your fingers. With your tongue pointed, gently lick and flick your tongue across the clitoris and into the vagina.

When doing this make sure go gently and see the response before being harder with your tongue. Most women need to be extremely wet to enjoy this as it is quite an intense feeling for many women.

#5.Sucking

Expose her clitoris by spreading her lips and gently pull back her hood.

Suck the clitoris (Please, Please & I Do Stress This Pleeeease be gentle) and then let it go and repeat again.

This can be an incredible turn on and will be very frustrating, warming her up for the other Cunnilingus techniques that are outlined here.

#6.Holding The Clitoris

Take the clitoris in your mouth and suck on it gently, at the same time flick your tongue around it. This can be done very lightly or aggressively or a combination of the two (find out what your women likes first) this is normally intensely arousing when done correctly.

Its as simple as A-B-C

Try using your tongue to spell the alphabet when performing cunnilingus. This is very arousing as your tongue is moving in lots of different directions. You can use any letters you wish, not just ABC! Listen to the ones that give her most pleasure and remember them!

Other points & tips to keep in mind to make cunnilingus pleasurable are

Tip #1. Share a shower or bath together before you start to make sure that you are both clean and add gels and lubricants to enhance taste and stimulation if you wish.

Tip #2. Ask your partner what she likes. She can give you directions such as harder, slower, faster, more circles etc

Tip #3. Fill your own mouth with as much saliva as you can before you begin and never touch or lick the clitoris when performing Cunnilingus with a dry finger or tongue.

Tip #4. Don't go for the clitoris make sure she is warmed up and aroused. Try gentle kissing and licking around the upper thighs and vulva area and work your way up to the clitoris.

Tip #5. Use a variety of ways to arouse her. If you repeat the same motion, your partner can become insensitive to it, keep in mind variety with Cunnilingus and keep her expectations up.

Tip #6. As she becomes more aroused, insert a finger or two into her vagina as well.

Tip #7. Continue to touch and hold her as she orgasms and after and make her feel wanted and loved.

Tip #8. The clitoris has more nerve endings than the entire head of the penis, so be very careful not to be to hard with it go gently and remember ask her all the time what she likes and doesn’t.

Cunnilingus can enhance any relationship and most women love it and getting it right is all about communication.

Following the above tips on cunnilingus will help you satisfy your partner and will enhance your relationship.

Pussy Eating Techniques

The top female erogenous zone!

When you have warmed her up with the above techniques, its time to concentrate on this area

Start, by licking her vaginal entrance up her clitoris, following the outer edges of her vagina covering both sides, going up and down.

Hold The Labial by holding both parts together with your lips, move your tongue between the inner and outer labia one side at a time over and over.

The majority of the nerve endings in a vagina are around the opening and within the first two inches of the opening.

Go for them with your tongue, by inserting it into the vagina, then lick in circular motions combined with flicking of your tongue.

Spread her outer vaginal lips then with your tongue stiff, lick and flick your tongue across the clitoris and up into the vagina.

Expose her clitoris by spreading her lips and gently pull back her hood, then suck the clitoris (be very gentle) and then let it go. This can be a real turn on and will be very frustrating for her.

Take the clitoris in your mouth and suck on it gently, at the same time flick your tongue around it. This can be done lightly or hard or a combination of the two and is a big turn on for most women.

The alphabet

Using your tongue spell out the letters of the alphabet, this is very exciting as your tongue is moving in lots of different ways and is a turn on due to the element of constant surprise.

PS: Remember the letters she likes for next time! The bottom.

Most women are extremely sensitive about their bottoms and there is no better way to show how much you love her than to kiss and lick. This female erogenous zone is one that all women will appreciate being targeted. 

Sex Education 101: Day #1.

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Sex Education 101: Sexual Terms Some Don't Know About {Day One}

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There are things about “SEX” that people don't know about. Sometimes it's not that people don't know, it's just that they never knew these things was apart of “Sex.” I sometimes get questions about certain things and I try to answer them to the best of my knowledge. And I know a lot of you get the same thing. It's not that we know everything. But when someone can come and talk to you about things then they are putting trust as well as confiding in you as a person to give them some type of good advice. It's left up to that person to take it and figure out what to do and how to handle them on their own terms. They are a couple of old saying that I believe in...

*There is never enough of teaching, because we learn something new everyday-

*Each one teach one-

*Knowledge is Power-

*A hard head makes a soft ass-

*Some people are here for a season and some fore a life time-

I'm sure by now you get the picture, “RIGHT?” Well the same thing applies to sex & everyday life. Applies to the the things we don't or never knew. These are just a few “Sexual Terms” some don't know.

Some people never heard nor experienced these sexual terms. So here are some sexual terms that might catch your eye.

If you have any comments, statements and/or questions please feel free to post them at the end. We will try to cover just about everything with in a weeks time of “Sex Education.” If there is anything you want me to post let me know & I will try my best to cover it for you. All this is, Is just a little “Knowldge” that you may already know or something you might want to catch up on. We are all adults here so “Let's Have A Little Bit Of Fun !”

Much Love

Thanks So Much For Reading

The Realist Ms.Nikki

A Spot: Considered the equivalent to the G-Spot in a male. The act includes stimulating the prostate glans via the rectum/ass.

{To Do This}:

Put a condom over your index and middle finger, lube them well, touch around his ass till is relaxed enough to allow easy insertion of the two fingers. About 2 inches up the ass you will feel another sphincter [ring of muscles]. It may take a minute or so for these muscles to relax, then, when your fingers can go about 3-4 inches you gently stroke and you will feel the prostate. It is firmer than surrounding organs – feels about the size of a walnut and is very sensitive. Then you crook the two fingers towards the abdomen and gently stroke until the orgasm is achieved.

G Spot: The G-spot (or Grafenberg spot) is a dime to half dollar sized, localized area of especially high sensitivity, situated beneath the surface of the vagina/pussy on the wall toward the front of her body. While location varies, the G-spot is typically located about half way between the pubic bone and the cervix, about three inches into the vagina/pussy. Researchers have found that some women experience sensitivity more generally along the upper vaginal wall, rather than in a definable spot. Because the G-spot is beneath the surface of the vaginal wall, it must be stimulated indirectly through the vaginal wall. Many women reportedly notice an urge to urinate when the spot is initially stimulated, but find continued stimulation (with an empty bladder), very pleasurable. Some go on to experience orgasm, and some expel a fluid along with the orgasmic contractions.

{To Do This}:

It is relatively difficult for a woman to explore the G-spot on her own because most do not have fingers long enough to reach it. Inserting an appropriate, safe, clean object into the pussy is probably required for self-exploration. Or working with a trusted partner can make for enjoyable self-discovery of a G-spot. Through experimentation a woman can learn the type of stimulation that feels best to her. Penile stimulation is often more effective when done through steady and prolonged pressure, rather than with the usual dick thrusting, because the G-spot generally needs an intense and quite localized pressure. Gradually increasing the pressure will help identify the optimal pressure for erotic pleasure without causing pain. Some women are able to climax simply as a result of this pressure; in others it may act to significantly heighten arousal. Rear or anal entry and female on top positioning for intercourse can be effective ways to produce more direct stimulation.

Deep Throat: A slang term for a type of fellatio in which the partner of the man takes his whole penis into their mouth and deep throats it by relaxing their throat muscles and lessening their gag reflex.

Fellatio: Fellatio is a type of oral sex in which there is mouth contact with the penis. The term fellatio comes from the Latin word fellare, which means to suck. In fellatio the head and shaft of the penis are licked, kissed and sucked. The mucous membrane inside the mouth is similar to the lining of the vagina. The moist slippery feel of the mouth and tongue on the penis can be extremely pleasurable. Fellatio can be incorporated as part of foreplay, meant to heighten sexual arousal, or it can be the main activity, meant to bring the man to orgasm. Fellatio is common among both heterosexual and homosexual couples, yet not everyone engages in it. Some women, and to a far lesser extent some men, simply do not feel comfortable with this type of oral sex.

It is difficult to identify precisely which factors have led to a greater acceptance of oral sex, but some likely contributors include the following: 1) Scientific and medical evidence has helped dispel the myths about harmful health effects of oral sex and made it clear that fellatio between disease-free people does not in and of itself lead to disease; 2) The major religions have relaxed their historical prohibitions about fellatio being sinful and unnatural; 3) Modern hygiene practices have resulted in both men and women bathing far more often than was true in earlier times, thus reducing offensive body odors and tastes that may be associated with oral sex; and, 4) Since the 1960s couples seem to be more willing to experiment and openly explore sexual practices and issues, just as society as a whole has shown an increasing acceptance of sexual expression.

Even if a couple includes fellatio in their sexual relationship, anxieties about performing fellatio on a man may still exist. The person performing fellatio may have concerns that the partners penis may be too large for her or his mouth or that it may cause gagging. Another common worry is that the man will urinate during fellatio, or if ejaculation occurs, that the taste or feel of semen in the mouth will be unpleasant.

Although an erect penis may be too large to fit entirely in the mouth, some form of mouth contact can usually be made on the penis regardless of size. How deep into the mouth a penis penetrates can be controlled by either the man or his partner placing their hand around the shaft of the penis. This technique allows the hand to act as a stopper to control the depth the penis enters the mouth, thereby reducing the risk of gagging due to deep penetration. A thick penis that may stretch the lips and mouth can be licked up and down the shaft and around the glans without trying to take the penis fully into the mouth.

With regard to the worry about a man urinating during fellatio, it is extremely unlikely that any man is going to urinate in his partners mouth by accident. While it is the case that most men can urinate until an erection is very firm or full, they can also control urination, whether erect or not. During ejaculation there is a reflex action that contracts a muscle in the neck of the bladder which leads to the penis preventing the flow of urine. Thus, men cannot ejaculate and urinate at the same time

If a person giving fellatio is hesitant to have the man ejaculate into her or his mouth, the partner can signal when he is about to ejaculate and his penis can be removed from the mouth. For some, the slightly salty and chlorine-like taste of semen (which can intermingle with certain tastes from a recent meal) can create an unpleasant taste; others may find this unique taste part of the erotic experience of lovemaking.

{To Do This}:

{Blow Job Techniques} 
#1 The Double Dribble Blow Job
This is a slight variation on the basic blowjob with huge results. With this one you will give a basic blow job, but while you are giving him head you will use one of your hands as an extension of your mouth.
You will put your hand in an open fist (just like you would do if you were giving a hand job) and stroke the top part of the shaft while your mouth sucks on the head of the penis.
Make sure that you move your mouth up and down with the movement of your head. If your lips move up his penis your mouth should also. Don’t be afraid to put some pressure on his shaft with your hand – Like a light squeeze – but just make sure your nails aren’t digging in (ouch).

#2 The Hummer Blow Job This is a simple little blowjob trick that anyone can add to their skill list. All you need to do is start humming while your mouth is around his penis. You just want to hum – low pitch hum, high pitch hum… try different variations. But I have found that the low-pitch hum seems to get the most positive response. (well, all the response is positive)
You can add the hummer blow job to any standard or advanced techniques. Just throw it in randomly and you will always keep him guessing.

#3 The Magic Trinity Blow Job A great variation on the double dribble blow job. It’s a super easy blow job to give and the guys seem to love it.
What you are going to do is make sure you are in a comfortable place and that you aren’t balancing yourself or resting on your arms. You should be able to use both hands without any problems. Then you want to start off with your basic blow job, then work up to the double dribble (described above) and then you will use your free hand to very nicely massage his balls. You want to treat these guys with a good sense of caution – nothing too rough or it will ruin his good time.
Just cup the balls lightly and gently massage them while you are using your mouth and your other hand on his shaft. P.S. this works even better if his balls are a little wet.

#4 The “OH MY GOD!” Blow Job
This one is my all time favorite way to give head. I have been told that it feels so good that the guy doesn’t even know what all you are doing to him unless he looks.
If you have any problems licking his balls – then this one isn’t for you, but if you are game then you can give one lucky man a blow job he will never forget.
What you will do is start with a basic blowjob and work up to the Double Dribble (described above). Once you have everything really wet and going pretty good you will remove your mouth… but keep using your hand to stoke his penis. Then you will move your mouth a little bit south and lap his balls with your tongue.
You don’t have to take his balls all the way into your mouth. In fact, I have gotten the best results when I just lick his balls up and down using the same rhythm I use with my hand stroking his penis.
So basically you are giving him a wet hand job while lightly licking his balls.

#5 The Explorer Blow Job Ok… this blow job got its name because it’s for those girls who are adventurous. I recommend that you approach this one with the slightest bit of caution – not every guy will enjoy this technique while you give him a blow job.
You can do this one in a number of different ways. You will start with a basic blowjob, a double dribble, you can just do a hand job if you want – how you start is all up to you. Then you will slowly start to play with his balls and eventually start to slowly move a little more south.
As long as you don’t go jumping into anything and you let him know where you are heading – you will be fine – but know that some guys can’t get enough of this, some guys have always wanted to try it but never knew how to ask and there are a few guys out their who won’t be game – no matter what kind of guy you are dealing with you can read his body language when your fingers start heading south and you will know what he is thinking.
If I had to guess I would say that he is thinking, “YES! YES! YES!” But I still feel that I need to give this slight word of caution.
So basically you give him a blow job or a hand job (or any variation of the two) and you use a free hand to start heading south. What you do at this point is completely up to you.
Take it as far as you and your partner feel comfortable. Most of the time I just like to use my fingers to lightly caress his balls then head south and take my time rubbing his taint and then to his asshole. I will just rub the sensitive area there and around it and then I move back up going just as slow and caressing just as much.
Like I said, feel free to go further, or if you want you can stop at his taint – just get into the moment, read your partner’s body language and have fun!

#6 The Deep Throat Blow Job
So… the deep throat. Not a favorite of mine. Maybe it’s because I’ve never really learned to master the art of deep throating.
If you want to give it a try (and I tell everyone to give it a try if they are curious) then here are the basics to this famous blow job technique.
When you take his penis into your mouth (make especially careful that your teeth aren’t going to scratch or scrape) and start moving his penis further back to the end of your throat. If you are tense or if you are nervous about this – it won’t work. You have to relax your throat and start swallowing as if you were drinking water.
Don’t gag yourself or hurt yourself trying this one. Just remember that relaxed, cool and calm is the way giving great deep throat head

#7 The Twister Blow Job This blow job is fun and gives that little surprise that can send him over the edge. What you want to do is to start giving him head the basic way and then add in your hand (the double dribble again). And while still keeping the rhythm that you already have, twist your head and your hand in opposite directions.
This means that your mouth and your hand and still moving up and down on the shaft and the head of his penis in unison…. The only thing you change from the double dribble is to twist your head and your mouth in opposite directions.
Every time you come up you can twist your hand to the right and your mouth to the left. Every time you go down you can twist your hand to the left and your mouth to the right. It just gives another added sensation on top of everything else.
It can be hand to do the twister when you really pick up speed – so you may want to start out with this one and advance to the simple double dribble when you start getting faster.